Why men often cum faster when a woman is on top

The "woman on top" pose is one of the most popular in the world. And one of the most dangerous for men's endurance. Many men admit: Once a girl sits on top and starts moving, she loses control of her orgasm faster than in any other position. Why is this happening and can it be changed?

Physiology: depth and angle. When a woman is on top, the penis enters at an angle that perfectly stimulates the most sensitive areas — both hers and his. For a man, this means a tighter fit, more friction of the head against the walls of the vagina, especially when a woman bends forward or backward. This natural movement creates additional stimulation that is difficult to control.

In addition, in this position, a man cannot control depth and tempo as much as in a doggy or missionary position. He lies underneath and takes the rhythm that the woman sets. And her rhythm is often faster than he's used to, especially if she knows what she's doing. She doesn't get tired as fast as a man and can move at high speed for longer.

Visual factor: the view from above is exciting

For a man, this is one of the most spectacular poses. He sees everything.: the way her hips move, the way her breasts sway, the way she tilts her head back, the way her abdominal muscles play. It's both exciting and distracting. In a good way. But it is this additional visual arousal that often becomes the trigger for a quick finish.

In addition, she often looks down at him — and this look, a mixture of passion and control, is more powerful than any caresses. He feels like both the main character and a little weak-willed in front of her energy.

Psychology: loss of control

Men are used to controlling the process. And when the woman is on top, control passes to her. She decides when to accelerate, when to slow down, when to make a circular motion. A man can only trust and follow.

This loss of control can cause both additional arousal and the unexpected proximity of orgasm. He stops thinking about "how not to come," he just starts feeling, and this feeling is the whole danger.

How to prolong pleasure in this position

If you want sex in the "top" position to last longer, there are several proven ways.

· Get into the rhythm. Put your hands on her hips and hold her slightly when you feel that you are approaching the edge. Don't stop, just slow down. It won't spoil her pleasure—she'll understand that you're in control of the process.

 Breathe deeply. Slow inhalation and long exhalation help to relieve tension in the pelvic muscles. These are exactly the muscles that control orgasm.

· Get distracted by her. Instead of focusing on your feelings, focus on hers. Stroke her breasts, tell her how beautiful she is, kiss her. This shifts the focus from your own arousal to her.

· Change your position for a moment. If you feel that you are already at the limit, turn her over on her back or on her side. Changing your posture relieves accumulated tension.

· Use your hand. When she's on top, you can stimulate her clitoris while she's moving. It gives her extra pleasure, and it gives you the opportunity to slow down your pace by focusing on her reaction.

The main conclusion

"A woman on top" is not a sentence of endurance. It's a challenge. And if you learn to control your breathing, rhythm, and focus of attention, this pose can become not only the most spectacular, but also the longest. The main thing is not to be afraid to take a break and remember that pleasure is not a race, but a dance.

And if you feel that she has already taken you in turn, give yourself to this feeling. Perhaps this is exactly what you were both looking for.